Archives for November 2019

Fed is best!

November 28, 2019 Leave a Comment

For those mommas struggling, just remember fed is best.

Breastfeeding has been quite the roller coaster ride.

Somedays I would produce a lot some days I wouldn’t, some days I couldn’t go without pumping every two hours some days I could go all day.

Breastfeeding has made me question myself.

Breastfeeding has made me question my ability to be a good mother.

Breastfeeding has made me feel like less of a mom.

Breastfeeding has changed me.

Becoming a mom changes a women, It may be emotionally, mentally, and or physically (if it hasn’t done any of these to you, you must be a saint). Not only do women have to deal with changes within them self but also the way society sees us too.

When I had my daughter I felt a sense of demand to breastfeed her, I felt like I had to. I didn’t even consider other options, never even had formula at home ready if needed. But little did I know how demanding breastfeeding really was, How frequent I would have to nurse or pump, and how draining it can really be.

The latch of a hungry infant is no joke, but as a mom you make it work.

The cry of a hungry baby is no joke either, that’s why feed is best.

No matter how your baby is getting his or her nutrition, as long as they are feed when they are hungry you are doing a good job momma!

This week may be the last week I feed my babygirl breast milk and that is completely okay.

Yes I struggled with coming to terms with the fact that I can no longer supply for her but knowing she is fed is the most important.

So to the momma struggling with breastfeeding, it is okay.

It’s okay to use formula, it’s okay to supplement.

Remember: Fed is best!

– with love

Ivy Lowery

B A B Y

I get it now.

November 17, 2019 Leave a Comment

To the moms.

I get it.

I get why your house was a disarray last time I visited.

I get why you had piles of dirty dishes in your sink when you had been home all day.

I can see why you ordered take out every night rather than cooking for your family.

I understand why your hair is always up in a bun and your makeup is covering your under eye circles.

I get it now.

Before, I was so oblivious to how hard momming really is. Yeah I have baby sat and taken care of children before, heck I’m a teacher. But to see it first hand with your own life, own daughter, mommin and stuff… I get it! I get you!

This mommin thing is not easy, especially for my personality type. But I’m out here doing what I got to do to be sure we make it through the day.

I may not be the best.

My house is NOT clean.

My laundry has literally been piled in my closet for weeks now.

And my dishwasher is constantly full, and I can never remember if they are clean or dirty so I am constantly rewashing all the things.

But you know what, I am doing my best.

And I know you are too!

I wake up every morning to the most beautiful little girl, I grab clothes out of my ginormous pile in the closet, I get dressed, I cover those dark circles (and acne because stress) and I do the damn thing.

Mommin ain’t easy but it is worth every second.

L I F E

DATE YOUR SPOUSE!

November 2, 2019 Leave a Comment

New baby. New promotion. New way of life.

The importance of dating your spouse goes to a different level when two becomes three. Having a baby changes your life in more ways than one (all for the better of course!), but that will be for another post.

When we found out we were expecting we were in the process of selling our home. The home we moved into together, where we started our journey into adulthood.

We bought our new home and focused so much time of getting it ready to welcome our new little bundle of joy we forgot to enjoy each other.

My husband and I have been through a world wind of … adventures (yeah, let’s go with adventures) together. Maybe I’ll share that some other time, but long story short our chapters in life that include one another have been quite the “adventure” and that adventure wasn’t always rainbows and butterflies.

Like any other relationship we have good days and we have bad. At times I have gotten so consumed with the bad I forget about the good.

That brings us to the importance of dating your spouse.

Aside from having our nightly meals together (which is very important) we got to a point where our phones consumed are nights, the daily hustle of just being an adult exhausted all efforts to enjoy time together.

Then…we had a child. Everything that was once about us was now about her. Our daughter became the center of our world in a split second. I wouldn’t change it for the world, but your world does change.

About a month ago my husband got an incredible job offer. This offer was one that would send him away from home for the week, meaning I would be at home with our newborn… alone. That’s frightening in itself. Trying to make the best decisions for not only him, but our family, my husband took the job.

Emotional. Scared. Excited (for him).

I was terrified.

I know how to take care of our daughter, I know I can survive without my husband home, but i couldn’t help to think I didn’t sign up for this.

It sucks.

The first week he was away I wanted nothing more just for him to be home with us.

I quickly realized that Momma needed a night out. A night to feel like an actual human again and not a robot stuck in the same schedule with no outside human interaction on a 24/5 schedule.

So he asked me on a date.

Hesitate at first for the simple fact I didn’t want to leave our baby, I said okay..

So we went. I was worried, nervous, anxious and excited.

The first date was hard, don’t get me wrong. I thought about our girl the entire time. Cautious of my drink choices in fear I would mess up my breast milk, worried if we were out to long, wondering if I had packed enough for my sister who was watching her, worried about the time frame we had if we could hurry back before her bedtime routine started..

I was a mess, and it showed.

I was so anxious to get back to our little girl I didn’t take the time to enjoy my husband.

We went and got our daughter and went home. A whole week passed as my husband left town once again and all I could think about was wanting to go on a date again.

I missed him.

So the next weekend came and I had to tell myself many times, it’s okay. I will be okay without her and she will be okay without me.

Of course she was.

Allowing myself to enjoy time with my husband brought back the spark we have had over all these years. It makes you realize how precious this life really is.