New baby. New promotion. New way of life.
The importance of dating your spouse goes to a different level when two becomes three. Having a baby changes your life in more ways than one (all for the better of course!), but that will be for another post.
When we found out we were expecting we were in the process of selling our home. The home we moved into together, where we started our journey into adulthood.
We bought our new home and focused so much time of getting it ready to welcome our new little bundle of joy we forgot to enjoy each other.
My husband and I have been through a world wind of … adventures (yeah, let’s go with adventures) together. Maybe I’ll share that some other time, but long story short our chapters in life that include one another have been quite the “adventure” and that adventure wasn’t always rainbows and butterflies.
Like any other relationship we have good days and we have bad. At times I have gotten so consumed with the bad I forget about the good.
That brings us to the importance of dating your spouse.
Aside from having our nightly meals together (which is very important) we got to a point where our phones consumed are nights, the daily hustle of just being an adult exhausted all efforts to enjoy time together.
Then…we had a child. Everything that was once about us was now about her. Our daughter became the center of our world in a split second. I wouldn’t change it for the world, but your world does change.
About a month ago my husband got an incredible job offer. This offer was one that would send him away from home for the week, meaning I would be at home with our newborn… alone. That’s frightening in itself. Trying to make the best decisions for not only him, but our family, my husband took the job.
Emotional. Scared. Excited (for him).
I was terrified.
I know how to take care of our daughter, I know I can survive without my husband home, but i couldn’t help to think I didn’t sign up for this.
The first week he was away I wanted nothing more just for him to be home with us.
I quickly realized that Momma needed a night out. A night to feel like an actual human again and not a robot stuck in the same schedule with no outside human interaction on a 24/5 schedule.
So he asked me on a date.
Hesitate at first for the simple fact I didn’t want to leave our baby, I said okay..
So we went. I was worried, nervous, anxious and excited.
The first date was hard, don’t get me wrong. I thought about our girl the entire time. Cautious of my drink choices in fear I would mess up my breast milk, worried if we were out to long, wondering if I had packed enough for my sister who was watching her, worried about the time frame we had if we could hurry back before her bedtime routine started..
I was a mess, and it showed.
I was so anxious to get back to our little girl I didn’t take the time to enjoy my husband.
We went and got our daughter and went home. A whole week passed as my husband left town once again and all I could think about was wanting to go on a date again.
I missed him.
So the next weekend came and I had to tell myself many times, it’s okay. I will be okay without her and she will be okay without me.
Of course she was.
Allowing myself to enjoy time with my husband brought back the spark we have had over all these years. It makes you realize how precious this life really is.
Although our life looks a little different now, and our time is cherished much more than when we were teenagers… dates are important.
Take time with your spouse.
GO ON THE DATE!
Go to new places, step outside your comfort zone.
Cherish the time you have together.
Every moment matters, what you do with those moments help them become memories.